First snow of the season is here. I’ll be honest, I wasn’t quite ready for it. Today was supposed to be my crazy chaos day…a crazy day at work followed by the first orthodontic session for the little one, topped of by parent teacher conferences at the big kid’s school. I was prepped, caffeinated, and ready to attack this day and all it would entail. I hammered out my work stuff today, ending feeling really good. While the day was progressing, however, the calls and emails starting coming in. Conferences…rescheduled due to the pending snow. Orthodontist called…”can we reschedule until tomorrow due to the snow today?”. Before I knew it, quiet and calm had fallen, along with big fat snow flakes. I did manage to drop a return for Amazon to the UPS store on my lunch break. Aside from that? It’s going to be a quiet night. I can’t complain, it’s been hectic.
With our trip looming, there has been an outpouring of money, so it’s been a little tough. We needed more luggage, I needed (ok, fine, wanted) some new clothes, and we needed outfits for a party we are attending while there. My daughter asked me if we could have matching outfits for the party. I managed to find a dress for her that is very reminiscent of mine, a similar cardigan to go over, and similar shoes. She’s thrilled. I’m thrilled she wants to dress like me. I know in a year or two, she’ll start that stage where she is mortified by my very existence, although I, like all mom’s deeply hope she won’t go through it. She will anyway, which is why when she asks to match me, I will always say yes. She has her own style, her own look, and is her own person. We celebrate that. I’ve never wanted her to be a kid who has to be like everyone else, does what everyone does, etc. I’ve seen kids who’s parents spend a lot of time and effort to always have them keep up with whatever their friends have. Sure, kids like to have what their friends have, but sometimes you can see it’s a constant comparison. I never want her to place her worth on what other kids are doing, but rather on who SHE is. That being said, sometimes she likes the novelty of matching me, or her cousin, so I go with the flow, as long as she stays true to who she is.
I’ve commented before about the issues our school has been facing. Redistricting brought in a lot of low income families, and the school is struggling to fundraise. I hate to see the kids lost out, and have offered to help when possible, especially the 6th grade committee. The PTSA and I sort of had a rough go of it, and while I love many of the women on there, I’m sure it’s best if I help in other ways. I was blessed to have a friend of mine reach out with “hey charitable lady, need raffle prizes?” on facebook. I emphatically said yes, and was rewarded with bags of awesome items and gift cards to donate into the school. She also handed me a $50 gift card to a grocery store and told me to use my judgement to help someone. How amazing is that??? I have find that many people love to help, donate, or offer something for a good cause. They just don’t always want to do the heavy lifting of coordination, or other commitments prevent them from jumping in as they would like. I’m a boots on the ground person, who doesn’t mind doing the work, but needs the resources. This works well. The fact people know I’m a doer has served me well, as you can see, because now I don’t have to beg…amazing folks just offer, knowing I’ll have a need. It’s amazing, and I am so very lucky. After picking up the items yesterday, my car was filled, as well as my heart. While it sounds cheesy, it feels good to be able to put together something that helps. The gift card for the groceries…that needed a home sooner rather than later. Next week is Thanksgiving and I wanted to be able to make someone smile. I thought of a single mom I know. She lost her job over the summer, and is now playing catch up. She has always had it rough financially, but she does the very best she can for her kids. She is always the one to be the team mom, the mom at girl scout camping, etc. What she doesn’t have in cash she makes up for in time. When I placed a call about needing a helper over the summer, she was the first to volunteer as my sidekick for whatever I might need. I knew that card may make her Thanksgiving easier. I knocked on her door and said “Happy Thanksgiving!” I explained I had been gifted the card to find a happy home for someone who deserved a break and could use a little help around the holidays. The beaming smile I got in return made my whole day. I’m lucky to have a friend who would donate some money to help those that need it. I’m also lucky to have a friend who will give her time and energy to help those around her. I’m luckiest of all that I got to be the one to help hand out some kindness and see the joy it brought. I messaged my friend who donated the card and thanked her. She was pleased with my choice of whom to give it to. Everyone felt a little happier last night. Kindness will do that to a person. Choose it whenever you can.
Then again, take no shit. That’s a good motto too. Which leads me to:
So, many of you found me via twitter. Many of you also know from both twitter and here that my family member has been stalking me online for years using fake accounts that she creates whole fake lives for. I’ve listened to the lies, the projection of what she does on to everyone else, etc. A few weeks ago, I got a follow request (had to lock and block on all my social media) from someone that didn’t sit right with me. I did a search, and low and behold it’s a coworker of the stalker. I’m not mad at the coworker. She listened to what she heard and I’m sure they thought this would be a “stealth” thing to do. I think mostly, she was shocked I figured out who she was. In fact, as soon as it clicked, I had all her info. The internet works like that. I messaged her, spilled all the tea, and wished her a happy Thanksgiving. Now that being said, I’m all set. I’m done with this. Let me be clear. If you come for me, my husband, or my kids, I will come back for you like it is my 2nd job. I’m a nice person, until you make it not so. So understand, very clearly…..I’m tired. I’ve had enough. The North Remembers, and Winter is Coming.