I know it’s been a while since I posted. I’ve been pretty busy. Yes, yes, I know that is what everyone says, but in this case, it’s true! Aside from the usual working mother of 2, wife, and the normal day to day chaos, I have been trying very hard to live the “yes” life. I thought perhaps it’s time to do an update on how it’s going.
I started this after lamenting about the extra weight that has cropped up on my the past 10 years or so. After mulling it over and feeling a bit sorry for myself, a memory of a conversation I had with my mother popped in my head. She once told me how proud she was of me for my determination and independence. I remember her telling me how I seemed to just set my mind to things and DO them. It seemed logical that I could apply this mentality to losing some weight. I talked myself into it. I COULD do it. I just needed to set my mind to it, and to make a plan. I realized I am not a big fan of the gym, but I like being active. The first thing I did was start going to an Aqua Zumba class on Mondays. You know what? I LOVE it. LOOOVVVVEEEE it. It makes me feel great and I have a good time. I actually look forward to Mondays…how is that even possible? The AZ class led me to take a deep water fit class. I started losing a bit of weight. I realized, now that I was a bit more active, that much of my problem thus far was that I wasn’t doing much at all before I started the classes. I had gotten up, dropped the kids off, and gone to work all day. Then I would come home, get the kids fed and ready for bed, and then watched TV. I wasn’t doing much for me.
I needed to make some changes, and it started with the mindset that I would say “yes” more. Because I was saying yes more, I felt less guilty when I had to say no. When my son’s soccer coach couldn’t coach this season, and nobody else volunteered. I said yes. I have help, and I had some learning to do, but I am doing it! I will tell you…it’s the best damned thing ever. I love it. It’s not always easy, and 10 year old boys will give you a run for your money, but on the whole, it’s been fantastic. I feel ike I have done something positive, I get some excercise, and it’s been so much fun. My son said he was proud of me. That was worth the price of admission right there!
I am saying yes to plans, and finding ways to do things for me, as well as the kids. I took a trip to NYC 3 days ago to go see one of my favorite authors do a reading. Before, I likely would have made excuses, but this time I was determined to go. One night to myself to do something I enjoyed was a complete recharge. I notice that since I have been saying yes more, I am finding time to not only do more things with the kids, but for myself as well.
The end result? I am happier. I guess what they say is true, a happy wife is a happy life, because our household seems happier. It also seems healthier. The kids are supportive of me going to excercise classes 2x a week (the Y has a childcare room they go to for an hour where they draw, play or hang out). My husband is supportive as well. We’re all eating better. We exercise more. My son, who never learned how to ride a bike, learned (in the rain) because he asked me to teach him, and I said yes. I had always thought it would have to be something my husband taught him, but nope! I set my mind to teach him and it worked! I am trying to silence the negative inner voice in my head and replace it with a positive, happy one. It’s a work in progress, but it’s getting better all the time.
Have I lost weight? Yup, so far it’s 16 lbs. I gained 3 back, then lost them again. It’s a process. Hopefully it will keep disappearing with a bit of work, and staying active.
Ok, so I haven’t quite gotten the hang of saying yes more to the housework.
Can’t win em all.
Live the Yes life. You won’t be sorry.