The Mr. doesn’t understand my love of Real Housewives. He lightly scoffs at my desire to watch multiple seasons, simultaneously. I’ve tried on occasion to explain why I enjoy the shows but I’ve never really been able to articulate why. Tonight I gave it some thought, and I realized that even during the madness of some episodes, I have learned some great life lessons from some of the housewives, and one in particular that I will get to later. Love them or loathe them (or at least who they are on TV) there is much to be learned.
From Gretchen and Tamra, I learned that sometimes, misjudgements on someone can cause a series of problems that can be difficult to get past. Yet they CAN be overcome. Sometimes friends can come from the most unlikeliest of places, from the most unlikely of histories. A bit of humble pie and a willingness to admit mistakes can turn a relationship completely around.
From Kyle Richards, watching a loved one battle addiction is a constant battle of two opposites….the fight to help them and to hide the embarrassment they cause themselves, and the knowledge that sometimes you have to let go enough for them to hit bottom so they can get help. That’s one of the hardest parts of loving an addict. When you most want to hold them tight, to help them you must often let go.
From Jacqueline: She kept trying to have a baby, and held the hope no matter what happened. When it did happen for her, it wasn’t necessarily what she envisioned. She jumped into the mode of finding out whatever she could to help her son. Nick is a beautiful little boy, and I have no doubt her efforts will help him to succeed in the long run. This reminded me that sometimes, life takes you down a different path than you might have expected, but it’s just a different way that may make you take a bit more notice of the world around you, and will be just as amazing.
From Ramona: While people say they like a straight shooter, who tells it like it is, they kind don’t. Sure, we all say we want the truth, but sometimes the truth needs a touch of padding and love behind it. Blasting out what’s YOUR truth doesn’t mean it’s everyone’s truth. Sometimes saying something hurtful even though it may have some truth to it doesn’t make you a hero…it just makes you kind of an asshole.
From Kim Z: Married men are never good for single gals. A man that will cheat on his wife has a flaw in his morals and lacks courage. Is that someone you want to be with? The fact is, if you’re spending all your time with Mr wrong or someone you know is Mr. Right Now, a REAL Mr. Right isn’t going to want to get involved with you. This goes for anyone in a relationship. Don’t waste your time because you don’t want to be alone. Someone who is right for you and has a strong moral character isn’t going to be around you if you’ve got one foot in a relationship with someone else.
From Cat: If you say Bollocks, you will score points. Immediately. But only if you do it in a British Accent.
From Teresa: oh T, where do we begin? Families have fights. But loving people means that sometimes you have to recognize that relationships change. Nobody can destroy you. Only you can destroy you. Never tolerate a spouse who talks down to you, treats you badly, or possibly cheats. Why? because while he’s treating you like garbage there’s a better guy who will treat you like a treasure! Lastly, if everyone around you is saying you’re messing up, sometimes, you gotta look inward and figure out what they are seeing that you’re not trying to project.
Lastly, my favorite of all….comes from Lisa Vanderpump. One night, after the Laid Back Kid had done me wrong, disobeyed his momma, and made me really angry, we talked it out. At the end, I told him “always remember one thing…mommy loves you.” I make sure to tell them that often. I hope that becomes a catch phrase that when I start it, they finish it. When I am gone, and they have strife…I want my kids to hear my voice in their head saying “always remember one thing…mommy loves you”
Night Loveys! xx