I’m going to step away from the TV chat this morning. I’m going to also preface this blog post by saying that I’m not a big country music fan, nor do I follow any particular religion (although different strokes for different folks!). The reason I say that is because all morning I’ve had a very old Garth Brooks song in my head that states “Some of God’s greatest gifts are unanswered prayers”, If you’re not of the religious sort you could exchange God for Life and prayers for wants, and the message still stands true. Much of what I’ve wanted in life hasn’t always been what I’ve needed.
When I was younger, I always waffled on what I wanted to “be” when I grew up. For a while it was a dolphin trainer, then a lawyer, then a psychologist. (None of these came to fruition). I remember changing my mind along the way to “I want to get married, have kids, pets and be happy.” That was my goal. Everything else seemed like the icing on the cake. Along the way though, there were numerous times that I wanted, no BEGGED life to give me what I thought would make me happy, The boyfriend who wouldn’t commit that I believed would make me happy, the job that made me go for 5 interviews only to not hire me. Even though I often say I want my house spotless, upon thinking about it this morning, I’m not sure I do. Why?
That boyfriend I wanted to commit so bad? He strung me along for years only to cheat and not be there when I needed him. I swore to everyone that he was the one for me. I wanted it to work. Yet, I didn’t need it to. I learned a lot from that relationship. My friends call me the runaway bride because I’ve been engaged a few times, but I always broke it off because deep down, I knew they weren’t right. The best piece of advice my mother ever gave me was that if a man didn’t think I was priceless and “better than sliced bread” then he wasn’t the man for me. That was the BEST advice I have ever received. My Mr. is all I could have dreamed for, and all because I listened to my mommy and waited for the right guy rather than settling.
The job I wanted? The one that made me go on about 5 interviews and take tests and put me through the ringer only to not hire me? Ugh, the frustration and defeat they made me feel! You know what happened to the person who did get hired? Laid off, along with the rest of the office when they just closed it down! Meanwhile, I got a different job, a few weeks later, that treats me well and I enjoy it.
The spotless house? Hmm. YES, the toys and clutter from everyone drives me mad, but with kids comes toys and stuff and thinks not always put away by them. I’m an only child, so learning to share my space with not one person but 3 people has been a bit of a lesson. I’d never trade my family for anything, and if a little clutter means I’m surrounded by love, then so be it. If they would pick up their socks though, well that would be just dandy!
What I’m getting at, is that if I actually got what I wanted at the time, or what I thought I wanted, I wouldn’t have what I really need, or what I have now. My life isn’t perfect. I don’t have everything I always want. I do, however, have what I need to keep my base happiness factor solid. I’ve learned to be happy with what I have, and to know that sometimes, I may not get what I want. Sure, it sucks in the moment, but often what I get after is MORE than what I could have hoped for.
Be kind to yourself, Loveys!